Starting by creating a character that is a member of the Drow race (or the Half-Elf race with Drow subrace) is the most straightforward option, but the most flexible way to enjoy some Drow privilege is to roll yourself another race and use a spell or item to disguise yourself as one.
Starting a game as Gale, or the stock pre-rolled Dark Urge character, will give you the option to select the Level 1 spell: Disguise Self. Also, if you want to play Tav (the default name for any custom character), any Wizard, Bard, or Sorcerer will give you that same option.
Another way to get the ability is with the Digital Deluxe Upgrade, which grants the Mask of the Shapeshifter. The mask can be found in the Traveller’s Chest the first time you travel to your Camp, and is a reference to Fane’s helm in Divinity: Original Sin II. This is a great way to become a Drow (or any race for that matter), if you are playing as a non-Drow Fighter, Barbarian, or other class, or if you’d just prefer not to spend a slot on the versatile spell for whatever reason.
If you are using Disguise Self, it is important to note that the Femme Drow is a Seldarine (the good-aligned Drow), and the Strong Femme Drow is a worshiper of Lolth (the evil spider-associated deity), and each will give you different options from time to time.
